I’m sure we all can recall a time that we were judged and a time that we were even doing the judging. We are so quick to get offended when the judging is on us but it becomes “our opinion” when we’re doing the judging. We will judge a person for what they wear, how they wear their hair, or whom they decide to date…you get what I’m trying to say. Luke 6:37 says, “Do not judge and you will not be judge. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” Luckily we serve a forgiving God and by His mercy we can be changed. But for a second lets just say the shoe was on the other foot and we were the ones being judged. How would you respond to those judging you? Do you offend them? Do you get angry with them and say bad things about them? The answer of course is no. You immediately begin to pray for them. You don’t lash out on them with insult. Don’t be tempted to react negatively. Always respond in a Godly way. Yes this is very hard and I am honestly still struggling with this till this day. Satan wants us to become angry, bitter, and always ready to lash out on those judging us. Satan loves division. He loves dividing families, relationships and friendships. We have to pray and ask God for wisdom to see what the enemy is doing. When being judged think of your spiritual weapons, the word of God, the blood of Jesus, and prayer. “ No weapon formed against you shall prosper…” Isaiah 54:17. Don’t let Satan take over your happiness. Keep him a way from taking advantage over you. We have to learn how to win all of our battles. As I explained how to react to someone judging you, remember to think before you judge someone else. It’s an unpleasant feeling to be judged, so why would we consider judging someone else? Remember, who are we to judge?
I know some days are harder than other days and I know some days you just don’t feel like going on but keep your head up queen. One minute you may be full and bursting with positive energy and the next minute you feel negative and low but keep your head up queen. On days like this, just stop, take a deep breath, tell Satan “not today”, pray, smile, and grab your crown. Your day can seem terrible but what is a bad day when you’re walking with God. There is always something to be thankful for. Through every trial, remember you are still living. Which means God wants you to keep fighting. He didn’t and will not give up on you, so don’t give up on Him. I suggest you find someone you can talk to or do something that can encourage you daily. Read a bible verse daily, write a positive messages on a post-it, or listen to a song that can minister to you. Whatever you choose to do, just make sure you are encouraged. You will be surprised at how better and positive your day will be. We all have our days, that’s granted but keep Psalm 30:5 in your mind. “For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime; weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.”God’s grace and mercy is new every single day. Always acknowledge the benefits and possibilities of God. He won’t fail you!
As women, we often consider ourselves to be “wifey material”. Of course we all want to be married and have that dream wedding that we’ve been dreaming of since we were little girls. We strive to be the perfect girlfriend in which we hope leads to being the perfect wife. When relationships don’t work out, we blame the guy and begin to say, “He lost a good one”. But have you ever stopped and examined the qualities that you lack within yourself? I must say it took me several break ups to finally see that I wasn’t fit for being what I thought was “wifey material”. One I didn’t have a relationship with God, two, I wasn’t fully healed from my past, and three, I lacked confidence in who I was and what I wanted. I’ve been doing some studying on the virtuous wife in Proverbs 31: 10-31 and she is by far the perfect role model of a great wife. She is noble and plays a dominant role in her marriage and in her community. She wears her confidence and dignity with grace. Not only does her husband recognize her confidence but her community also recognizes it. Her confidence is contagious and it stems from the faith she has in God. She is a great wife to her husband and goes above and beyond to provide for her family. She is strong and doesn’t have a problem with taking full responsibilities with helping others in need. Not only does she take care of others, but also she makes time to take care of herself. She has the qualifications in being a great wife. She is supportive, reliable, trusting, and most of all she loves God. She has confidence in God and herself. As women, it’s a must that we take the time to seek God and seek who we truly are. How can we think we’re ready to be a wife, if we don’t know exactly what we want? Not just what we want out of a man but what we want out of life. Take the time to build your relationship with God, build your confidence, build a relationship with yourself, and build the qualifications that you lack. We all want to be a great wife one day so lets all strive to be like the virtuous wife in Proverbs.
Hey you! Yes you! What are you doing?! Queens don’t hold their heads down, they hold them high! Got it?! Ok! Now raise your head high and wipe your tears dry. The frown you have on your face, transform it into a smile. Now get up! Go take a look in the mirror! Really look at yourself! Do you see the queen I see?! You should! She’s looking right at you! Now tell yourself “I am a queen! I am a confident queen! I am strong! I am covered by the blood of Jesus and because of that, I can conquer the world”! Now say it again ” I am a queen! I am a confident queen! I am strong! I am covered by the blood of Jesus and because of that, I can conquer the world”! Feel better?! I thought you would! Now grab your crown, put on that beautiful smile, Thank God, & go conquer the world!